John, I'm NOT having a go at you here - really I'm not. I just genuinely find this 'ball weight' thing very hard to understand. I'm not built like Mr. Australia or anything like that, but truly, a 16lb ball to me feels like a feather. The only time I'm aware of it's weight is when picking it up from the ball return, when it's on the opposite side to me. I did try a 14lb ball many years ago, in the days prior to the magic reworking of the laws of physics so that something lighter can hit an object harder than something heavier. (It was an "Earl Anthony" black rubber ball.)
I'm near enough the same age as your dad. I said in another post that I'm finding it difficult to bowl a number of games lately - leagues - 3 or 4 games Ok - Tounnaments - 8, 10, etc difficult, BUT it's not the ball, it's general, e.g. I've got a very large area of lawn to mow and that's more tiring than it used to be.
With good rhythm, for a stroker, - can't speak for crankers, it certainly looks more physically demanding, I really cannot see why any very average male would, or should, have any trouble with a 16lb ball.
Is there anyone out there who feels similar about ball weight??